I’m not sure what I did to deserve the love of my wife, but I’d do it a thousand times over just to be in the same room with her. She has no idea how much I truly am head over heals in love with her. I know that I don’t show it all the time or even act the part but it’s the truth and this got me thinking about all the cute stuff I’ve done when we first got together. Why is it that we work so hard to obtain the love of another just to let it go stale over time? Is it that we fall out of love with this person, maybe that we’ve won the prize from all our hard work and we don’t need to try anymore, we’ve locked it in right? Those are both reasonable examples but from my standpoint, it’s the simple fact of time and routine, my wife and I get so wrapped up in work and giving to others that we have formed a routine. The routine saves us time so we can focus on work and giving to others, unfortunately, our relationship is in a speedy way. My wife has an amazing smile and I don’t seem to see as much of it as I used to and I want it back, including the romance, that brightness, and the laughter. These things will slowly start fading if we don’t fan it to keep it lit, so I decided to take a seven-day challenge. The purpose of this exercise is to do something sweet outside of our normal day, something to break up the monotony of our rigorous schedule, hoping that my wife would take notice. Day 1, I hand made a card and wrote a poem inside, plus cut a little over a half dozen roses and tied them together with yarn then giving it to her first thing in the morning. Day 2, My wife needed to smog her car that day so I told her that I would see her later and she headed out. I went to get her favorite iced drink a chai iced tea but was handed a hot chai tea instead. It was cold outside so I didn’t complain I just left to go meet up with my wife. As I got out of the car my wife was walking back to her car from the smog building, she saw me and said that it didn’t open for another hour. I handed her the hot tea and she loved it expressing how cold it was and we hung out together for an hour. Day 3, My wife was in between her jobs and had a half hour to hang out and kicked her legs up so I grabbed some lotion and massaged her feet. Day 4, My wife came home for lunch and I brought her some turkey noodle soup that I had made and I did the dishes before I had to leave back to work. Day 5, We had gone to church and they were passing the microphone asking people to share what they were thankful for, so when it was my turn I was able to say how thankful I was to have her in my life. Day 6, took a little bit of a turn, my wife had noticed while I was on a lunch break that I was acting funny, I was saddened, suddenly hit by the death of my grandpa, my day went from energetic to not wanting to do so much. I sat on the couch and my wife went and grabbed some lotion and started rubbing my feet! Day 7, I helped my wife clean the church so she could take a break in between jobs. It ended up she had half an hour before her next appointment so we took a walk to a small bakery and shared a treat. Did you notice the change that my wife made during the later part of the week? The best part of taking a seven-day challenge is that it’s the right amount of time to put what you are working on in the forefront of your thoughts. Not only that but they usually carry themselves over a month to where it’s a part of your new routine. It’s exactly the same as with studying the bible and praying to God. In order for us to excel in our faith, we need to have God in the forefront of our thoughts and diving into His words.
Published by Matthew, Karen, and God
Karen Guthrie, a retired Bank Manager, Vice President, and Matthew Moore, who works in construction, are members of the same church. In March 2014, they both joined the Oakdale Rescue Mission Board of Directors. They started sharing their stories with one another on how God has greatly impacted their lives. View more posts